Millions of Americans live their lives with low self-esteem. Teenagers learn it from one or both parents. Others choose it by comparing themselves with movie stars. Many young women mutter to themselves, “I’m not good enough…I’m not as pretty as Becky the captain of the cheerleading squad…I’m not smart enough to pull top grades.”
Often, young men drink booze to numb their frustrations from not being handsome, athletic or academically successful. They hang with the wrong crowd or stay home where they find solitude. Too often, teenagers of both sexes compare themselves to others.
Low self-esteem may be one of the greatest detriments to personal success socially, mentally and/or economically. But, since it’s a learned behavior, it can be unlearned and changed.
Recently, one of my lifelong friends, the successful author of four published books, visited me in Golden, Colorado. That night, after dinner on our deck, he and I reminisced about our college days together. We both became teachers. During the conversation, I asked him about his fifth book.
“I can’t seem to motivate myself to finish the book,” he said. “I’m still dealing with low self-esteem.”
Mind you, this man earned a world record in one category of weight lifting. He earned a Master’s degree in advanced education.
He reared four successful children. His wife elevated herself to a world-class artist through his encouragement.
“So, Paul, are you going to coast your way to the doorstep of death?” I asked. “Are you going to waste your literary gifts because of low self-esteem? What’s the value in that choice? Why would you squander your gifts because somewhere along the line, you bought into the ‘low self-esteem’ train, and you’re still riding it?”
“I’m not sure how to figure it out and how to get off the train,” he replied.
“It’s amazing,” I said. “All my life, I’ve been accused of being too over-confident and self-assured. Some call me brash. I never thought of myself as inferior to anyone or anything. Plus, I never compared myself to anyone. In my youth, my dad put his arm around my shoulder when I faced difficult challenges. He said, ‘You can do that, son.’ That became my truth. Maybe you could borrow that ‘truth’ and incorporate it into you own life. It’s more fun to live a life of high self-esteem. It creates a higher vibrational frequency in your daily life. It makes you happy. It makes you creative. It allows you to laugh often. It allows you to move toward your highest and best.”
“I never thought about it that way,” said Paul.
I pondered how a man of Paul’s accomplishments could carry such low self-esteem? How do you escape low self-esteem?
First, change your view of yourself. Are you a victim or a product or a tragedy? You decide. You choose your relationship with any of your challenges or situations. In the end, life doesn’t bequeath you a positive or negative thought pattern. You choose it and you live it. Either way, you evolve your life by your choices. If you run from something, it consumes you. When you face it, you gobble it.
Second, choose by daily habit to up-level your intentions for your world. Choose to value every problem, disaster and defeat. Use the gifts of defeat to grow your life. At your funeral, would you feel good when your best friend spoke about you in the eulogy, “Paul lived a so-so life because he chose low-self esteem, which buried any chance of living a truly remarkable life. He wasted so many of his incredible talents.”
Third, no matter how tough the problem, you choose the solutions and engage the intention to grow. Remember that an answer exists for every challenge in your life.
Fourth, unbridle your dreams. Henry David Thoreau said it best, “If you advance confidently toward your dreams, and endeavor to live the life which you have imagined, you will meet with success unexpected in common hours. You will pass through invisible boundaries. You will engage new and liberal laws. And you will live with the license of a higher order of beings.”
Fifth, consciously open to the joy, happiness and creative energy of your life by shedding the ‘low self-esteem’ skin to engage a ‘high self-esteem’ energy field around your heart, mind and body.
Finally, you write the next chapter of your life by your hand and by your choices. Engage your brain, heart and soul toward your highest and best outcomes. Engage the power of brave thoughts. And, enjoy the ride!
Bottled Lightning: Skin Your Knees On Eternity
By Frosty Wooldridge
At the beginning of my presentations on “How to Live a Life of Adventure” at high schools, colleges, civic clubs and church groups, my first words exclaim, “I live a spectacular life!”
After the audience digests such brash words, I invite each person to repeat for himself or herself, “I live a spectacular life!”
They repeat the words, but with unease, consternation and even trepidation. It’s a bit difficult to make a bold statement on how you live your life. You might be living a dull life, average existence and even, a difficult life. You may face challenges that seem to consume, daunt and defeat you.
So, how do you bottle your internal lightning energy? How do you go out into life to skin your knees in the face of eternity?
First, your 80 years on this planet constitute your personal eternity. That means you choose what happens, how it happens and for how long. You choose to learn as much as you can during your schooling. You choose to care for your body-temple by your actions or inactions. You choose to eat, drink and nourish your being with healthy foods and fellowship of friends. You choose to fill your spirit with your own options of connection to the natural world.
Second, harness your youthful exuberance not only in your teen years, but choose to maintain your energies throughout your entire life. It’s been said, “Life deals you high and low cards, but you play with the hand you’re dealt. You can bluff your way through or you can play it straight. Either way, you win or lose on your chosen merits, talents, skills, education and actions.
Third, choose your words and thoughts wisely. Choose your friends with care. Hang with others that carry their own “bottled lightning.” For starters, what defines bottled lightning?
Think of the energy that explodes through your body when you work on a project that you love. It may be working on your car, creating a bookshelf in a woodcraft class, writing a poem or volunteering at a homeless shelter. It might encompass a math class, sports of all kinds, dancing or yoga. It may be a novel or a Shakespearean play.
Include its concepts into your inner passions, drive and creative living. You may choose that “bottled lightning” drive throughout your life. Once you feel it, you know it. Once you know it, you own it. From that point onward, apply it to your work, play and quiet times.
For example: this past spring, I carried my passion for long distance bicycle travel along the West Coast of America. I pedaled nearly 2,000 from Canada to Mexico. Each day, I pedaled up hills and coasted down hills. I traveled through sunshine and rainstorms. I pushed into headwinds and enjoyed tailwinds. I witnessed stunning sunrises and sunsets. I met fantastic people and several “otherwise” people. Each day, I expected great moments.
At one point on the Big Sur south of San Francisco, known for its incredibly rugged mountainous cliffs that tower over the crashing surf—I stopped at a vista point overlooking a lagoon 150 below me. Another traveler yelled out, “They’re spouting!” I looked down to see a 30-ton Grey whale surface for air. For an added treat, a calf spouted right alongside its mother. I snapped several pictures as they played between the seaweed and waves rolling in from the wide Pacific Ocean.
I muttered to myself, “Spectacular!” Indeed, at that moment, I lived a spectacular life because I took a chance. I pedaled my bike down the West Coast. I opened myself up to the energies of the universe. Do you think it’s easy to pedal a bike across a continent? Is it a cakewalk to ride in a rainstorm? Answer: a cyclist faces every kind of challenge you can imagine, just like your own life.
In the same high vibrational frequencies, you enjoy the same possibilities in your spectacular life. It might be travel or raising a child. It might be your Zumba Dance Class or playing the piano. Discover your “bottled lightning” in your pursuit of happiness.
Now, repeat after me with certitude, enthusiasm and genuine confidence, “I live a spectacular life!”
The Creative Dynamo in You
By Frosty Wooldridge
Six decades ago, a Swiss hiker named George de Mestral hiked through autumn colors with his dog. He crossed fields covered in milkweed, purple thistles, burrs, thorny branches and floating dandelion parachutes.
In the autumn, all plants release their seeds to the winds. Others attach to animals for transport to other locations to begin anew.
When Mestral returned home, he noticed dozens of burr balls with hooks attached to his socks and his dog’s fur. It took him 30 minutes to dislodge them from his clothing and the dog.
While pulling them off, he noticed each spine featured a hook at the end that embedded itself into anything passing near the plant. Anything with fur picked up the seed and transported it to new fields. His wool sock picked up the most “hooked” burrs.
He put two and two together! Voila, he created Velcro cloth fasteners. Today, we use Velcro to secure our bicycle shoes, coats, fasten our backpacks and a thousand other uses. He became a millionaire through his “creative dynamo” spinning around in his mind.
You can look throughout history to see innovations and inventions that popped up out of nowhere by average men and women who discovered an idea “out of the blue.”
By what process does an invention occur? How can you apply it to your life? What can you do with inventions you create?
Remember that everything must come from an “idea” before it can move into form.
Ideas fly around the universe waiting for someone to grab them and bring them to form. Your mind constitutes a “net” that captures ideas. You may remember that tiny, gold, winged ball in the Harry Potter books that flew around the stadium while students chased it on their broomsticks.
When that winged ball flies by your head, grab it! Write down the idea. Process it. Play with it. Move it into form. It might be an idea for a magazine article if you are a writer. It might become a book. If you make jewelry, you may create a stunning ring or necklace. If you create macramé, you may discover a new design. You may create a new painting, poem or sculpture. You might design a new bicycle, airplane, car or boat.
In whatever realm you play, those ideas buzz around your head. Capture them like Harry Potter captured the tiny, gold winged ball.
Never allow anyone to deter you or rain on your parade!
Years ago, a man attempted to make a “cooler” beach shoe that stayed on peoples’ feet. He made it out of rubber with a cinch on the back. He offered it in many colors.
Naysayers said, “That’s so ugly; it’s a crock!”
So, he named it a “Croc” and you know the rest of the story: billions of people wear his beach Crocs!
In order to engage your own creative dynamo, stay open to ideas via your open consciousness. Realize that “form” emerges out of the invisible field of the universe. It’s the playground of your mind. It’s spontaneous and self-generating energy.
It’s known as the “Law of Mind.” It’s the “emerging creative energy of the universe” and it flows through you. You can use it. Uplift your life by up-leveling your thoughts. By doing so, you will partner with the power of the universe.
- Open to the new "yes" in you.
- Fuel your creative dynamo with endless ideas from your experiences.
- Write them down, say them aloud, draw them, and work on turning them from thoughts to form.
- Reframe your sense of self.
- Understand and relish in the fact that you represent an endless fountain of ideas.
- Open to the magic.
The creative dynamo thrives in you by your receptivity. As a writer, I look for new ideas daily. Above my computer on the corkboard for the past 40 years, a small card reads: “The Idea Fairy may strike at any time—so be alert and write her idea down, so she will feel appreciated and come back often.”
Co-create Your Life Journey
By Frosty Wooldridge
Most people stumble through their teens, stagger through their twenties and meander into their thirties. By forty, they suffer a mid-life crisis before bumping into the Big “5” “0”.
(On life’s highway, you meet wonderful people co-creating their lives. Hang out with people who love living, thrive at every venture and love to share their secrets. Keep listening and then, take action.)
From 50, they face the last third of their lives with a sense of a downhill slide. Most never lived any “great” moments or vanquished any dragons let alone navigated a great sailing ship called the Black Pearl like Captain Jack Sparrow. None took off through space like the Next Generation on the Starship Enterprise.
Most Americans enjoy two-week vacations with scant time to climb Mt. Everest or raft the Amazon. Others feel so locked into their jobs that nothing or no one can change their fate.
What if teens and twenties changed the course of their existence by co-creating their lives with a greater power, a higher understanding and a plan to enjoy their way of life?
Captain Jean Luc Picard said, “Time is a companion that goes with us on a journey. It reminds us to cherish each moment, because it will never come again. What we leave behind is not as important as how we have lived.”
Breathe that statement into your spirit. Incorporate it into your mind. Engage it with your passions.
What turns you on in your daily existence? What moves you to action? What calls you?
For every human being on Earth, a little engine inside calls for “something” to activate a life-calling. How do you find out which path calls you?
What heroes do you follow? Why? What great moments in history move you? How do you feel when you study a certain subject? What books engage your interest? What famous movie role inspires you?
It’s my contention that you discover your life path by following the slightest thread of your desires. From there, you make your intentions.
If you remember Star Wars, Luke Skywalker landed his fighter space craft in a bog where the fabled Yoda lived on some far-flung planet. The bog felt dense, steamy, depressing and foreboding. Luke’s spacecraft sank into the muck.
After some time, Yoda discovered the young Luke Skywalker.
“Why have you come?” asked Yoda.
“I need to know how to engage the Force,” replied Skywalker.
“You must believe in yourself,” said Yoda. “The Force moves in and through you. It engages every cell in your body. You must open up to something better. You must open to and flow with your beliefs. You need to align with your higher energies. The universe moves in your favor. Understand and harness that Force.”
“But how?” asked Skywalker.
“You see your fighter space craft stuck in the bog?” asked Yoda.
“Yes, it’s stuck,” said Skywalker. “Just like me with the Force.”
“You must open to the creative energies of the Force,” said Yoda. “You must surrender and receive. You must believe. In the end you must weave your own story.”
“That’s a bunch of grand claptrap,” said Skywalker.
“Okay, use the Force to lift your craft out of the bog and set it on dry land,” said Yoda.
“I’ll try,” said Skywalker.
He engaged his mind. The craft moved a little, but quickly, Skywalker gave up.
“I don’t think I can do it,” said Skywalker.
“You can’t just ‘try’ young Luke Skywalker,” said Yoda. “You must know you can do it.”
With that, Yoda raised his hands, aimed his mind at the craft, and lifted it out of the bog onto dry land.”
“I don’t believe it,” said Skywalker.
“That’s why you failed in your own attempt,” said Yoda.
On this long journey of your life, you must co-create your life path with the creative energy within you. You possess all the tools and all the ingenious energy to engage a positive, useful, purposeful and happy life.
Open to possibilities daily, engage the flow, and receive the favors of the universe. Finally, weave your story toward co-creating your dynamic life. Take action toward your chosen destiny.
This video graphically and dramatically illustrates America's immigration-population crisis as well as the world's. I wrote it and narrated it. Tim Walters of Cleveland, Ohio directed and produced. Please forward it to all your friends, networks and beyond. Place it on FB, Twitter, Linkedin, Parler and more. Just click the link below to see the video.
Immigration, Overpopulation, Resources, Civilization by Frosty Wooldridge
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In a five minute astoundingly simple yet brilliant video, "Immigration, Poverty, and Gum Balls", Roy Beck, director of www.numbersusa.ORG, graphically illustrates the impact of overpopulation. Take five minutes to see for yourself:
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"Immigration by the numbers—off the chart " by Roy Beck This 10-minute demonstration shows Americans the results of unending mass immigration on the quality of life and sustainability for future generations: in a few words, "Mind boggling!" www.NumbersUSA.org
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