- How far we've traveled in 50 years!
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- In 1955, you would raise eyebrows by advocating extramarital
sex. Today many will be horrified to hear me suggest that sex should be
reserved for marriage.
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- Don't ascribe this opinion to my "fundamentalist
Christian upbringing" (as one reader recently put it.) I am a product
of our dysfunctional Judeo Masonic ("secular") culture and practiced
"sexual liberation" (or tried to) for most of my 55 years.
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- As I finally have a satisfying marriage, I realize traditional
morality reflects profound psychological and spiritual truths.
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- I have a hunch that confining sex to marriage is the
cornerstone of social and personal health. Conversely, sexual liberation
is just bad for us.
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- I'm not trying to cramp anyone's style here but rather
to lend support to people who are leaning in this direction anyway.
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- I begin with the assumption that human life is sacred.
People are not animals made to rut and root. We are created in God's image.
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- This means we are not finished. We are designed to become
higher more gracious beings.
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- In the act of procreation, we become surrogates for God.
We create life.
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- Sex is sacred. It is not merely a bodily urge. It is
motivated by a spiritual desire: the need to overcome our isolation and
become One with another human being in Love. Male and female were designed
to complement and balance each other. A child is the fruit of their unity.
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- Obviously this spiritual need cannot be fulfilled by
casual sex. Promiscuity is the antithesis of love. When we have love, we
do not feel the need to roam.
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- Perhaps marriage is not always essential but certainly
sex belongs in a long-term committed loving relationship.
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- FEMININE AND MASCULINE PSYCHOLOGY
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- The attempt to foist promiscuity on a woman goes against
her natural instincts and causes hurt and confusion. By accepting a man's
seed, she is becoming one with him, even if there is no conception.
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- (See also my "Sexual Liberation is Anti-Women"
http://www.savethemales.ca/000216.html)
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- For a healthy woman, sex is an act of self-surrender.
It is the ultimate gift she can bestow, an expression of her love and commitment.
Self-surrender is the key to her sexual satisfaction.
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- (See my "The Power of Sexual Surrender" http://www.savethemales.ca/290502.html)
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- A woman does not make this sacrifice lightly. Trust is
the essence of her love. She trusts her husband to look after her best
interests. She chooses her husband carefully.
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- Femininity is the art of self-effacement. A feminine
woman puts her husband and children's welfare ahead of herself (and career.)
She is rewarded by their love and devotion. She is the nucleus of the nuclear
family.
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- A woman's sacrifice is how love comes into the world.
It makes a man want to reciprocate and sacrifice for his family. Selfless
love gives both man and woman meaning and purpose.
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- We are young and sexually attractive for a relatively
short time. It is love that warms our hearts for the better part of our
lives.
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- No wonder the enemies of love, the servants of Satan,
our political and cultural leaders, want to destroy heterosexuality and
marriage. They want to murder the soul. We have entered the twilight zone.
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- SOCIAL IMPLICATIONS
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- Born in 1949, I have seen the change in society due to
"sexual liberation."
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- When sex was confined to marriage, it meant you didn't
do it unless you really cared about the other person. The spiritual or
human element was guaranteed. It ensured that men and women considered
marriage (and family) as the natural next step in their development, which
it is.
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- Today, the sex partner has become a temporary convenience.
The woman is a receptacle; the man a vibrator. Sex is glorified masturbation.
Marriage is postponed indefinitely.
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- Thanks to "sexual liberation," everyone is
a potential sexual partner. All human relationships have been degraded
to sex. No one is off limits, even children. Everyone you meet is a potential
sex partner or predator.
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- When sex was confined to marriage, people could relax
and relate to each other on a higher plane, as human beings.
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- The critic Irving Babbitt said, "When a civilization
falls apart, it collapses because of unfettered sex."
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- HETEROSEXUALITY AND HOMOSEXUALITY
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- As my readers know, I believe the sexual revolution was
really homosexual in nature.
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- Powerful forces want to depopulate and destabilize society
by promoting gender confusion (feminism) and homosexual dysfunction.
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- I define this dysfunction as arrested development due
to the inability to form a permanent bond with a member of the opposite
sex.
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- Gay or straight, we are all becoming homosexual because
we cannot achieve the spiritual union or permanent intimacy that we really
crave.
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- Sex is mistaken for love and replaces it, thereby assuming
a deceptive importance. We are obsessed with it. Because it cannot satisfy
our real need, we continue to up the ante and become kinkier.
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- We judge people strictly by their sex appeal and are
cruelly indifferent to those who are not physically attractive. Women develop
eating disorders. The aged naturally are treated with contempt.
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- We compensate for failure to find permanent love by making
a public display of our promiscuity. This is supposed to affirm our freedom
and identity. TV and movies testify to this perverse trend. In many cases
homosexuals now are defining heterosexual norms. ("Sex and the City";
"Queer Eye for the Straight Guy"; "Kinsey: Let's Talk About
Sex")
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- We are in constant denial about our malaise and the forces
that enslave us. . (See my "Is this Gay Behavior Sick? http://www.savethemales.ca/201101.html
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- In contrast, heterosexuality is monogamous, exclusive
and private. It is concerned with procreation, nurturing and personal development.
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- Invisible powers are neutering society. Tolerating homosexuality
is no longer enough; we are now required to experiment with it. Heterosexual
marriage is equated with homosexual marriage as if being gay and straight
were the same. (See my "Why I am Proud to be Homophobic" http://www.savethemales.ca/021101.html)
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- Feminism is a mask for lesbianism teaching women to usurp
the male role and spurn the female one. Universities instruct young women
to fear, not love men and children. Feminist family law makes marriage
a dangerous proposition for men.
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- There is no question that sick people control the government
and media.
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- HETEROSEXUAL UNION
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- If a woman wants to be "independent,"
she needn't get married.
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- Heterosexuals shouldn't confuse equality with equal power.
Equality means that both partners have an equal right to dignity and self-fulfillment.
But this is achieved in different ways. Heterosexual union involves an
exchange of female worldly power for male love.
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- Essentially the woman says, "I will obey you."
The man says, "I will love you." Thus two people become one.
Of course he consults her. How else can he love her?
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- A woman demonstrates feminine power in myriad ways: by
her warmth, beauty, grace, personality, intelligence, industry and devotion.
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- In marriage a woman entrusts her power to her husband.
This is the only kind of woman a man will permanantly love because she
is part of him, like his right arm. He doesn't spoil her but he treats
her very well.
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- This is the unity most people seek. It is the source
of love and stability. It may not be the only way, but it is one that has
always worked. It is possible only when sex is reserved for marriage.
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- Henry Makow Ph.D. is the inventor of the board game Scruples
and the author of "A Long Way to go for a Date." His articles
exposing feminism and the new world order can be found on his web site
http://www.savethemales.ca/ He enjoys receiving your comments at Henryatsavethemales.ca
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